Relational Patterns in Hysterical Psychology

Individuals with a hysterical personality structure may have grown up in environments where a male child was expected or witnessed celebrations for male siblings due to their gender. These celebrations might include events such as birth celebrations or circumcisions. Throughout their lives, these individuals have been exposed to settings where gender-specific behaviors were emphasized, observing that different attributes and values were assigned based on gender.

The use of phrases like "like a woman" to describe perceived negative or deficient traits in boys can lead girls to internalize a sense of weakness and inferiority associated with their gender. As girls mature and their physical appearance increasingly diverges from that of boys, they may perceive a distancing from their fathers, leading to feelings of rejection. They also begin to understand the impact of their gender and sexuality on men.

The father figure holds a distinct position in the daughter's perception due to his gender. His voice and physical presence are perceived as significantly larger and more powerful compared to her own and her mother's. Consequently, girls may take longer to acclimate to male voices. If the father, already perceived as different and intimidating, also possesses a stern temperament, the daughter may experience profound fear. Conversely, if he is perceived as nurturing, she may oscillate between approach and avoidance behaviors. In patriarchal societies where men exert dominance over their female partners, daughters may internalize a sense of lesser value associated with their own gender and learn to approach male figures with caution and calculation. Thus, these individuals may develop problematic perceptions of their sexual identity. Similarly, boys raised in environments where they are belittled for being male may develop hysterical personality traits. While hysteria is more frequently observed in women, this can be attributed to patriarchal societal structures that associate masculinity with power, as well as the secondary role of men in childcare, which renders them mysterious, unattainable, and exciting.

As a result, men are perceived as dangerous yet powerful by hysterical individuals. Consequently, they may seek to establish connections with men for security, often employing their sexuality. However, this sexuality is not driven by self-gratification and rarely leads to fulfillment. Instead, they seek to elicit nurturing qualities from men they both fear and desire to connect with. Yet, upon witnessing these nurturing qualities, they may associate them with femininity and subsequently devalue them, mirroring their devaluation of their mothers and other women. This cycle of idealization and devaluation may occur frequently for some individuals.

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